Love is an emotional state that connects one so deeply with another that it is almost impossible to live without them. There are different forms of love, however, varying between love for family, friends, partners, and even pets. Love for a family member is caused from the connection that develops throughout infancy and childhood. When family members, especially parents, care for and raise their child they develop a love for that child that will certainly last forever in their minds. The child also develops an intense attachment to those who raise them. This kind of love hopefully lasts as one's entire life, and consists of feelings and emotions of friendship, dependence, and biological connection. Love for friends is usually reserved for one two of our closest and best friends. These friends become incredibly close because they are basically the family that we choose for ourselves. Friends can be the people who know the most about you, even more than your own family, which connects them with you at a deeply personal level. Although we may feel that we will love and be with them forever, this type of friend-love may not last more than a few years.
Love for a partner can be the most powerful type of love. This kind of love begins with an attraction deep rooted in the veins of evolution. The physical attraction for another is what sets the stage for the mental and emotional connection to follow. One may argue that beauty does not play a role in the partner they choose for themselves, but when the feeling of true love arises, that significant other is usually seen as the most beautiful thing in the world. This kind of love with a partner consists of deep and uncontrollable emotions and feelings towards that person. You know this love when you can not picture your life without the other. It is possible for this love to last forever, but quite often ends at some point in the couples lives. This love is perhaps the strongest because it is made up of deep mental, emotional, and sexual connections that flourish within a relationship. If ended abruptly, this love can cause you to plunge into deep depression and drastically change your life. For example, when Sainte Columbe's wife, in All the Mornings of the World, died, Columbe's life dramatically changed. He devoted his life to putting his emotions into music and trying to express the feelings he could not express with words. Love is an something that is essential to the human condition and will without a doubt change your life at some point.
I strongly agree with your post and your perception of the different kinds of love. I like how you brought up the love one feels for their pet, a love that most seemed to have forgotten about in their posts, myself included. One of my favorite points that you brought up was your definition of what a best friend basically is "they are basically the family that we choose for ourselves" I completely agree with it, and I feel like that has been my favorite definition of what friends are.
ReplyDeleteI also believe that you can only really love a small number of close friends. You can have a lot of friends but I am with you on the fact that only a few will stay with you your whole life. The part where you talk about how attraction sets the stage for love is something that I also believe to be true.
ReplyDeleteI agree with a lot of the statements you made and also agree with the part about strong friendships between you and your select few best friends and how its almost as close of a relationship as family. I also like the part about the effects of the loss of someone you love and your connection to the film.
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